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Tuesday 16 September 2014

Following Your Dreams When It Gets Hard



One of the things about dreams is that they’re usually not easy. They seem all warm and lovely and shiny when we think of them, but pursuing them is a whole other side of the story. When you’re pursuing your dreams and you’re stressed, worn out and not seeing any real results it can be REALLY hard to push yourself to keep going. We've ALL been there.

‘your dreams are ball-busters; they’re not the yellow brick road’ - Kelly Cutrone.

Dreams aren't meant to be easy
Your dreams are meant to intimidate you, scare you and at the same time make you want to pursue them all the more. If your dreams don’t do that, then sweetheart; you’re not dreaming big enough. Your dreams aren't supposed to fit in a neat little package that you can tie with a pretty ribbon.

 If your dreams don’t challenge you, you’re never going to grow as a person.

Pick your ass up off the floor and try again
Okay, so you've hit a road-bump while you’re driving towards your goal. Are you gonna allow yourself to get stuck in a stupid little pot-hole when you could  keep going?
Maybe that business you were so passionate about isn’t bringing in the sales you thought it would. Should you give up? Sure as hell not! 

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts
 - Winston Churchill.

Failing doesn't mean that you’re finished with your goal, it means you learned something the hard way. EVERY experience is valuable.

Visualize your end result
The thought of one day being a successful writer, or a surgeon or for some people even a mom is what makes a fire of passion burn in their belly. Don’t forget and let that flame in your belly go out when you’re past the dreaming and into the doing stage. 

One of the most important things when you’re trying to achieve a goal is how it will make you feel when you finally get what you wanted. Keep visualizing that end point and don’t let go of it.

Know When It’s Time to Let Go:
While I don’t advocate giving up on your dreams, I do advocate that you re-assess them. At least once a year you need to be sitting down with yourself and getting your ‘ish straightened out. Are the goals you had as a teenager still relevant when you’re a 30 year old mom of 2? Most likely not. 

Make sure that all of your goals still apply to your life and will be BENEFICIAL to you. We’re not here just to do things so we can say we did them!

In the comments I want you to share one of those goals that really make you giddy when you think about it. I also want you to tell me what the hell you’re doing to achieve it too! 

You can do this.


29 comments:

  1. Spot on advice. I can tell you that there are times when I've wanted to give up on a thing or two but I've stuck with it and I'm so glad I did.

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    1. Thanks Stephanie! Yeah persevering can do wonders in the long run!

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  2. I have a goal I am trying to accomplish and the only thing preventing me is me, thanks for the verbal ass-kicking, I need it!

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  3. Knowing when to let go is always the hardest. What a great and inspiring post. Thanks for sharing.

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  4. I love this--especially the last bit about re-assessment. I wanted to be a lawyer from the time I was 12, but when I actually got into law school, I was miserable. It was nothing like I expected! Dropping out of that program and starting in my English M.A. program made me feel like a failure for a while until I realized that I'd just found a new dream! :)

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  5. I love this!! Such an inspiring post and a great reminder that anything is possible :)

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  6. Great tips! Its hard to get up and try again when you feel like you have failed. That is something I need to work on.

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  7. So I think my problem is that I don't have any goals right now other than to continue to be able to stay at home. I am working from home now and hope to continue.

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  8. SO many things can get in the way of following your dreams, it's so great to hear reminders from others to stay on track and don't give up!

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  9. Great advice. If at first you don't succeed try and try again :)

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  10. I liked how you talked about the need to re-assess from time to time. You are right, it's not necessarily giving up on your dreams! But sitting down and thinking about the right way to go for them is good.

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  11. This was very timely for me, I have had a rough week. Thanks for the reminder!

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  12. Love it! Sometimes you just have to face difficulties in order to get to your goals and dreams because what would be the fun if it were easy, right!?

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  13. I needed this post today. I've really been struggling with 'what I want to do' truth is, I really don't know. Win a ton of money and live like an heiress the rest of my life? Yes please.

    Katie <3

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  14. This is perfect advice, especially reassessing your goals. The CEO of minted said minted actually came from a failed stationery store. :)

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  15. Try, try and try again! That's all you can do in pursuit of your dreams.

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  16. Love that you're sharing this inspiration! Life is too short to not follow your dreams - even if they're hard!

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  17. My big goal in my personal life is weight loss - I am literally working my butt off to achieve it. I was exercising every day, now it's down to about 3x a week but I am eating healthier and drinking more water!

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  18. Great post! I'm all about going after your dreams. We have them for a reason. Why not see where they lead you? :)

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  19. The "pick your ass up off the floor" comment is the most important one. One failure never means total failure.

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  20. There are a lot of things I have learned to cut my losses on! Great post!

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  21. its sometimes hard to get back out there once youve tried so hard, but its so important!!

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  22. Kelly Cutrone! I used to live and die by that chick! She's a cool gal with great messages (and some cuss words)! Live your dreams for sure!

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  23. Truth. "Dreams require hustle." That's my new favorite line. Great post!

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  24. Great post, similar positive-oriented mindset as mine is! Believing in yourself, and following through with your dreams is such a key part to living a great - or as I like to say it, fulfilling - life. Glad that we're kindred spirits in that way!

    xo,
    lauriel
    EyeForElegance.com

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  25. I am really guilty of having too many goals and not being the most focused. And I agree absolutely, that failure is just a sign of progress. Re-assessing is so important as I've often found that my goals have shifted and I kept on working towards something that wasn't as relevant to me anymore just to achieve it, as I am scared of that 'failure'. I guess that's part and parcel of getting older and wiser :)

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